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Try these tapping tips to clear clutter from your home and the emotional resistance to letting go. True clutter however, and I mean really messy environments, is really a symptom of something other than a busy lifestyle. Most often clutter is a Control Issue. Being unwilling to let go of things is a way people can feel in control of their lives.
Even though it appears that they are totally out-of-control, hanging onto "stuff" gives people a sense of being in control. Another common reason for clutter is Fear. The fears of loss, rejection, failure, and losing control are the most universal of these.
But again, all of these fears and issues are just symptoms. Underlying these symptoms of clutter is a cause or core issue. Clutter is often triggered by an event or a series of events that left the victim feeling traumatized, fearful, and powerless.
Hanging on to things gives some people a sense of commanding, or controlling at least a portion of their lives. Determine the event that started the feeling of loss of power or loss of control and neutralize it. You are then halfway home to eliminating clutter. Although she looked relatively clean, she assured me her home was beyond filthy. Boxes, stacks of magazines and newspapers, and junk lined her walls and floors so that she could only reach her bedroom or kitchen through a small path.
Dog poop was on the floors, in the spare bathroom tub and even on her bed. A loose parrot contributed bird poop on everything everywhere. She said the smell when you walked in the door was "staggering". This was clearly more than just a messy house. I asked her what happened 20 years ago.
She had no problem remembering. A drunk driver had killed her only child, a much-adored 11 year-old daughter. Janice was still devastated and in shock when three weeks later her beloved husband of 15 years was killed.
The mudslide that took away her husband, eradicated their home and virtually everything else Janice had left. Photos, family keepsakes and personal treasures were lost; along with the people she loved the most. Her whole life was turned upside down in a flash. From that point Janice was virtually paralyzed with grief, sadness, and a sense of abandonment. She became frightful and hyper-vigilant about everything. Janice became afraid to make a move, throw anything away, go anywhere, or do anything.
Her hoarding of the few things she recovered or replaced began her trend toward clutter. She subconsciously had developed such a fear of loss that controlling her environment became her way of controlling and protecting her very life. With this knowledge we first cleared out her grief and trauma about losing her husband and daughter.
She said she had "dealt with it" through years of therapy. I knew that was doubtful, based on the results in her life. This brought a lot of tears, which surprised her. Note: A round consists of tapping on all of the meridian points, while using a short reminder statement, or venting phrases, starting with the eyebrow and ending at the top of the head.
On the 3rd round we gave voice to her feelings with phrases like: It was so unfair I blame myself somehow She was responding very well and reached a zero in intensity at the end of this process the first round of the remaining issue, the second round of positive affirmations - choosing to let it go - and the third round alternating negative and positive statements at each consecutive point.
I asked her to really try to get upset about the loss of either of her loved ones. She actually laughed about something funny she remembered her daughter had said. With the cause of her clutter issue now put to rest, we could then move on to fixing the symptom of clutter problem. As always, I used the Ultimate Truth Statement to work toward a positive outcome. I could have started the whole process with this as well, but the underlying grief issue was so apparent that I wanted to eliminate that first.
First I had Janice come up with a basic statement as the goal she would like to achieve: "I live in a neat and orderly environment. I then asked her to describe how that would make her feel when that statement became true.
I would have clarity! I would feel good about myself and have more confidence. I would feel so much lighter! My life is comfortable, easy, and free with my clean, well-organized, tidy lifestyle. This was a statement Janice could not only live with, but loved! She was very excited about the possibility of achieving it. On a scale of 10 to 1, with 10 feeling and owning the statement right now, she was at a 5.
She now had two major concerns. One concern was wondering how she could possibly clear everything out and clean up the incredible chaos she lived in.
The second was fear. In a way, holding onto her fears, control issues, and clutter was her way of holding on to her family. We put aside the UTS for the moment to work on the obstacle of the fears in her way. We clumped her fears together and Janice gave them a 9. We then simply tapped away the fears: Even though I have these fears about letting go of my filth, feces, and squalor Using loaded words such as squalor and feces instead of just saying "clutter" has much more punch.
After the set-up statements we did one round just alternating the fears: This fear of letting go This fear of failing This fear I might need something I throw away. On the second and subsequent rounds we added words to give voice to the fears: What if I throw something away I really need? I want to eliminate these fears and this filth so I can be healthy again We then moved to the Choice Statement with the set-up of: "Even though I still have some fears of cleaning up my environment, I choose to let them go".
I choose to have a neat an orderly home " I choose to let go of any remaining fears about it " I choose to feel good about being fearless " I choose to make this easy! It was truly at a zero for Janice. Now when looking at her UTS, her number had gone up to an 8 with 10 being the target.
She felt like she was almost there in feeling and believing in the veracity of her statement " in spite of the reality of a mess in her home. I choose to have a clutter-free, clean environment. We did slight variations of that three times. I love having a tidy, clutter-free home " I feel confident and comfortable having people over. At this point Janice was at a Meaning she could say her UTS with absolute conviction as if it were already true.
I had her tap on this statement daily, just to reinforce her resolution. With Janice we did a few more rounds to magnetize a solution. Simply alternate these kinds of phrases on the tapping points: I ask the Universe to clear this clutter for me I want to be involved and I want it to be EASY I choose to find a creative, fun way to have a clean, orderly environment I know a safe, tidy home is on the way And I want to have fun participating in it Deep inside I already know how to eliminate this clutter All of a sudden Janice stopped me and said "I have a plan!
She recruited three close, non-judgmental friends and assembled lots of boxes and bags. Trash was thrown into bags and immediately taken outside. Donation bags of unneeded but reusable items were labeled and set aside for charity. Her friends generated a Master List of box numbers and their content so that Janice could find "Shoestrings from " in Box Most of the boxes were stored in her garage so that in time, Janice would be able to reclaim what she really wanted and disposed of the rest.
She also hired a housekeeper to help her clean each week so she would never again have to experience a clutter problem. Not surprisingly, Janice exclaimed how much better she was feeling; very focused, restored clarity, much higher energy, motivated, light, confident and happy. She also reported that she has more time to do the things she enjoys, she has often has friends over now, and her life is so much easier.
With those positive aspects to motivate her, Janice is maintaining an orderly, clutter-free life. And you can do it too.
Clearing Clutter with EFT
Then it is time to start We have been there and done that… and we know how frustrating the clutter cycle can be! You make promises, clean it up, pile it up again, feel discouraged and ashamed. Rinse and repeat. Do you know why those piles just come back?
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